I can’t tell you how long I waited to hear those words. According to the court records I waited just 5 days short of 9 months, but I think I was waiting much longer.
I chose not to fight the jerk about anything in the divorce. I walked away from quite a bit because I just wanted to get it over and done with as quickly as possible. That took 9 months, so I can’t imagine how long it would have taken if I decided to take it to court! I went after what was important and that was my kids, my home, and my freedom. Yeah, I could have fought over money that he owed me, for spousal support, or the better vehicle. But those things weren’t important to me then. They aren’t important to me now.
I just wanted the whole thing to be behind me and finally with just a few words it was.
I don’t talk to him anymore. Only have maybe 2 times this year, over minor issues that couldn’t be avoided. I mean, we have kids together, so it is unavoidable that we will need to speak at sometime or another through out the years, but it will only happen when it can’t be avoided.
Did I feel sad about the divorce? Nope.
Did I think about the good times? Nope.
Did I feel frustrated because it was taking so long? Yes.
I thought it would be harder, when all of that started, but I can’t tell you how easy it was to just walk away. That’s what’s sad to me. That at the end of 13 years, I really didn’t have anything to miss or want to hold on to.
And this post closes (once and for all) that chapter in my life.